Really?? 113 out of 134??
This article(click here) is what got me thinking. Apparently,India ranks 113 out of 134 countries in gender parity according to the World Economic Forum’s recent Global Gender Gap Index.
I was first not convinced with the ranking and thought it couldn't be true before delving deeper into the article and realizing it is indeed possible. We talk about equality,parity,modernity and what-not. But, the fact remains, we're SO ready to limit ourselves,our life,dreams and desires(even in a relationship that mostly causes limits in other areas).
The other day one of my closest friends admitted to being Okay with "a normal career" because her fiancee thought "she can do whatever she wants but doesn't need to be over-ambitious". Now 'he' has big dreams and is realizing them steadily, so financially they'll obviously be stable and he only means to give her a comfortable princess-like life ahead.What is wrong in that?
With slight uneasiness I nodded in agreement to the idea of welcoming such a life of comfort with open arms. Dressing up, going to spas, blowing up money on trendy designer apparels and being treated like a princess. Sounds perfect.What could be wrong in that? Nevertheless, something about it didn't feel right and the thought kept lurking on my mind.
It took me back to another statement a guy-friend had once casually made, "Come-on! We're anyway so tired after work that having an intellectual woman at home is not an appealing idea.Look pretty,have a job but let it be something to keep you busy.(He even threw his head back and laughed monstrously at this supposedly clever remark)
I find it *bloody disrespectful* to witness random comments on "looks and lifestyle" over "work"for women at workplace. No, I'm not being a cynic, this IS specific to women. If you're a woman, your success is really analysed with a microscope versus your male counterparts. I can vouch for this statement.
I can't categorically point and say, "Hey!That's not fair!" BUT I can categorically point and say, "That's limiting me.That's stopping me from being 'me'."
I am not a feminist. No. But it vexes me everytime a woman is treated like shit and even more when women let themselves being treated like shit. It only makes things worse if its in the name of love.
Its *not* a debate on career versus personal life, men versus women or anything like that. I respect personal choices and decisions, even if it means giving up a career for someone you love. What the hell! I could maybe do it for someone few years down the line. If it makes you 'happy', why not?
What bothers me is how we agree to square up at the drop of the hat. How we just don’t have any 'real visions' for ourselves.
I cringe at the thought of not completing the puzzle of my life, being in the middle of a grand design and losing sight of it because thousands of incomplete people insist on timelines and rules.To me, this is ANYTHING but fair.
We're 113 out of 134. That's where we stand. Not only because the social set-up is such but also because we agree to let ourselves get entangled in this web. We take pride in sacrificing, we forget to dream and *for some reason alien to me* smile pretty at being called bimbos.
This era is like a remix track of sorts, sounds new but what lies beneath, is just SO old.
Anyway. I feel like listening to the semi-cheeky track by Destiny's Child "Independent women" for now to feel better.
And while I'm at it, why don't you go and think about this embarrassing rank. For heavens sake, lets get a better ranking next time!