There are times when I yawn through my own articles. They are so incredibly boring and preachy that I'm left amazed.
Now. I came up with this brilliant( self-proclaimed brilliant, I mean) idea about writing an article on the reacher-settler theory (yeah the HIMYM one) but ended up writing a piece that was so arid that I myself couldn't read through the second paragraph. The post went into my drafts and the time that went waste, is, well a different sob-story altogether.
I wonder why does careful-thinking produce such random and boring pieces of shit. Its always when an article is spontaneous that it feels readable and fun. Imagine, feeling bored of "yourself". How gloomy is that. I spent unusual amount of time writing that article, assuming it to be deep and interesting but ended up producing a remedy for insomnia instead.
Aren't most decisions and relationships in life like that too? The one's we spent the maximum of our energy thinking about, are the one's that turn dreary and sleep-inducing over a period of time. The more we stretch them, the more we put our thoughts and energy into managing them,the worse they get.
Blink attitudes are so much better.Instantaneously-you like a dress- pick it up, angry-spill it out, warm-give a hug, thankful-express it, happy-wooooohoooo it, sorry-say it, bored-ignore it.
Getting me?The best decisions and most interesting things in life are usually "in the moment".
For lazy people like me, its bliss. No thinking or stress.
One answer to everything- I felt like it! (grin)
Think about it, someone wants to meet you but you're not exactly enthusiastic about the plan. Instead of thinking and cooking up an excuse, all you need to say is, I don't feel like it. Period. Who would want to be an in-your-face pile on?Unless they're retards of course. And who wants to be friends with pile on's? Unless you are a retard of course.
So there. Your being honest upfront, without too much thinking, got you out of a potentially uncomfortable situation. Honesty, I think, is always appreciated.Even if its not taken well short-term, in the long-term honesty is a boon. The other party also is bound to "not feel like it sometime or the other", Right?
I have noticed that most issues get sorted when you thin-slice. People choices, apartment choices or even shopping choices, are bang on "meant for you" only when they strike a chord at the first sight. The building-up-a-rapport/ getting-used-to-it business works only in a very few cases. If you ask me, there is something missing and incomplete even after putting in efforts if the tuning isn't natural.
Everyone goofs up sometime or the other.Even the most manipulative people, go haywire in their decisions. Look at poor old Vijaya Mallaya!SO, in case your thin sliced choices bomb once in a while, don't fret.
After spending years of thinking-more-than-needed, I realize that its not just boring but also meaningless to contemplate too much. Analysis and review of situations slices out the "you" from "you" and replaces it by a collection of experiences others have had.
Nowadays, when someone asks me why I'm "doing something the way I'm doing it", I just look at them and say,
"..........Because I feel like it dammit"