Sunday, October 7, 2012

Its between the two afterall..

Every time I meet my girl group (Someone called us the eye-liner girls the other day (!!!!!)-What the hell! Judgmental creep)....Ermmm...Anyway-Where was I?

So YA.Every time I meet my girl group, I'm bombarded with more things to write about than I can cover in one blogpost. They have all kinds of theories to delve upon and usually leave me with cerebral thought-stacks. I have to clear them one by one, on a weekly basis before its time to replenish the repository again.

This weekend my whole group pounced upon me with concerns on how I let a particular friend take me for granted.While my tolerance threshold is extremely low for the rest of the world she gets away with too much crap. Now- I had nothing to say in my defense because although all of them run parallel on my priority list, the fact remains that I indeed let this friend take me for granted.

I heard them out and had a flash of an imagination being bullied.Mean-girls type situation. Shudder Shudder. Not cool!
I immediately called the pest, warned her to be careful with me henceforth and behave herself.She promised she'll be careful.

I hung up and realized.Damn. Someone you can call and reveal your awkward fears to- without second thoughts- are the one's you're "yourself" with.People you value because they let you be you and stand up for you when it really matters. People who make you feel secure in your most lonely times. Like a Rock.Why would you allow anything to ever effect your relationship?

Isn't rapport a culmination of whats between two people- Things that are visible and those that aren't visible to the world? Its only when we put our equation open for opinions and scrutiny that troubles grow. No??

How many relationships have you ruined in past only to prove a point to others? I think, I have done this blunder in past innumerable times. This perpetual need to put people under friendship tests. Stupid.Very Stupid.

Yes, your close friends and family will (and should) give their opinion. In fact,it would be weird not to have such interference.It makes you feel loved.No?

However,by the end of the day all that matters is how you feel about a person and your individual chemistry. If you twisted your friendship to prove something to the rest of the world- you flunked your own test.

Trying too hard is never cool- to either keep a relationship or to keep away from it. Just let your equation be- as it is- without choking the hell out of it. Address concerns that make you uncomfortable. That's my rule of friendship now and will remain so till I'm struck by a new uber piece of philosophy that sparks a BAZINGA moment.



I'm off to sleep now with special thanks to my girl gang for giving my blog matter, pest for being herself and letting me be myself, best-friends boy-friend for being a clown and the city for giving me a kickass weekend!

Till the next blog post- Hasta La Vista!

And remember- Its between the two after all!


Red Handed said...

"If you twisted your friendship to prove something to the rest of the world- you flunked your own test." true true true...
I have done this so many times..and I still regret :(

Savvy said...

Good one...though Im glad I have never faced this and many a times I fall flat on my face for not listening to my friends and you know what im referring to :D

Ruchi Jain said...

G-talks..we used to name it ..when gals used talk for hours..nice post..:)

SM said...

yes address concerns rule of friendship agree with you

Saru Singhal said...

Well, I am someone who fears loosing relationship and hence on many occasions people take advantage of me. I think we need to respect ourselves in any relationship.

sawan said...

its been a month tht uve met ur girl gang? :) dont u think its time to catch up with them?

Madhusha said...

@Red : Thanks for reading
@Savvy: yo yo honey singh :D
@Ruchi: yessss :)
@Saru : agreed. But some relationships are beyond questions.
@Sawan :Yes. and so I did :)

sawan said...

nice :)

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Anonymous said...

Friendship like any other relationship must be nurtured. Friends must never be tested, the hope that they will stand by you May be lost. As they say ignorance is bliss!
Your clarity of thought is fascinating.

Madhusha said...

Thanks sawan.

@Informationjinxed - Thanks for commenting! I'm really flattered that you've taken the time to read so many of my posts and commented to on them too.....
Thanks for the wonderful comments :-)
Your profile is a mystery though, :-)

Anonymous said...

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I read a lot of your blogs coz I could identify with your thoughts. Keep up the good work, it is really refreshing.
As for me, we are not connected in any way. I just bumped into your blog.

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