My friend recently broke-up with her muse of several years. I use the word muse because the illusion of perfect love rapidly paled away when an uncertain concept turned into a concrete real experience. To put things simply, she was committed “in her head” for a couple of years before the relationship started and ended officially in a span of a few months.
It came as a surprise but not shock to me.
One, because I’ve started finding beautiful girls like her getting stuck in what “they think is perfect love” amusing and two, because I’ve realized if a relationship is dormant and not taken to the next level at the right time, people start playing mind games and sub-consciously turn it into a mission. Once feelings turn into a mission, they last only till the mission is accomplished.No?
Don’t you think most of us in emotionally wrecking relationships are killing time brutally? Although, I endorse being patient and letting the moment pass in most cases; if the turbulence extends to anything beyond a week something is certainly wrong. Unrequited love creates an illusion making you mistake it for some metaphysical soul connection. Reality-check! Connections aren’t one-sided. Please!
You are just getting trapped in your own web of ‘supposed’ commitment while there’s no meat in real life. The fights/make-ups, ego tussles, turbulent romance- are mostly ‘in your head’.
Deal with the apparitions of your imagination and get over them, I say! Or else, get batman to help you. *Eyerolls*
Get your timing right. Emotional health is imperative, really! No sad depressing music please? No shopping sprees please? No over-eating and bloating please? No finding yourself in movies and sitcoms either please? No clinging on to the guy and taking his bullshit in the name of love please? Act Selfish till you find someone who keeps you above his/her ego. Till then it’s NOT love, Ladies. And gentlemen *Cough*
You’re born to be happy, look good, dress well, stay fit, earn good money, get pampered and spread love! Don’t turn into a lousy slouch ever in the name of love. Its kickass to be a rebel with a cause, to give a fck to egomaniacs and philanderers and live it up to the fullest!
When its your time to love- it will be effortless and profuse. Your fears and insecurities will dissolve by themselves. You’ll be laughing with that person when the whole world seems to be a bitch!
A deep sense of security and companionship is love. I can’t be sure, but I think it incites a sense of deep faith and joy. It is comforting, secure and refreshing.
“Love is patient,love is kind. It does not envy ,it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not self-seeking,it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong things. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.- Corinthians 13:4- 8a