Tuesday, January 7, 2014

On love, life and crossing lines..

I was discussing with a friend about how conveniently people  cross lines these days."Everything is fair in love and war", she opined.

Got me thinking.I'm not sure of whether my thoughts are cohesive or not.Nevertheless, I have a whole lot of questions racing through my mind. (And yes! Till I get it out of my system, its kind of hard to sleep :) )

I haven't ever loved anyone to the point of madness and really can't be sure of how one behaves at that point. Maybe you just turn psychotic and the lines start blurring. Well who decides between the rights and wrongs? That's where I find myself short of answers. Clearly, in our personal life, the extents would vary.HOWEVER, would it be wrong to say that we all certainly feel uneasy when our privacy is invaded, to the slightest? Threatened when our place in someone's life is at risk? Last but not the least,we all crave for love and attention with an equal hunger. (Aaah! Do I sense raised eyebrows from content solitary reapers?People with delusions of no worldly attachments should move to the Himalyas and stop lurking online, you know?! :))

Anyway.

So ya! Despite ourselves, we intuitively need other people to make us feel good.The degree of need varies but holds true for everyone. That explains why people spend a lifetime seeking true love.That even justifies why people fall in love at the risk of making themselves vulnerable to heartbreaks. It makes that childlike race for happiness endearing and boundless living ecstatic!

However, infringing upon someone else's happiness. Is that acceptable?Actions that make sacred vows(said and unsaid) worth two hoots.

I hear stories of people cheating heartlessly. Married couples straying in the name of instant gratification, spiritual connection(!!!) and of-course the famous getting drunk and losing control excuse.(*smirk*)

Bullshit.


I haven't and I can't ever understand it. Not now, not ever. How on earth is robbing someone of their world  and trust ever acceptable?How are we any different from animals if instant gratification is all that we seek?

If selfish love was to be a norm, the world would turn into a madhouse. People would lose faith in friendship and humanity. Who knows-when cupid decides to strike a spiritual connection irrespective of a persons relationship status! (*eyerolls*)

I might be accused of being a social conformist looking at the world from my narrow lenses but at the risk of sounding old school; its not cool to recklessly get into zones that are already occupied.
 I would rather return to the times when love gave unparalleled security. Crossing the line was feared.Relationships and emotions were respected. Times when couples took pride in protecting each others emotions. It was easy to fall in love for a lifetime over simple cup of coffee :)

Maybe we're turning into a generation of confused and direction-less yuppies.Without roots!But before we forget-Rootless trees fall at the slightest of storms.

"At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don't keep other people out. They fence you in. Life is messy. That's how we're made. So, you can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them. But there are some lines... that are way too dangerous to cross."-Meredith Grey (Greys Anatomy)

7 comments:

Red Handed said...

You respect the boundary when you respect the relationship. PERIOD!!!

Madhusha said...

True that!

Rahul Kumar said...

Its a perception...!! Its from a perspective of a person who is yet to cross the boundaries and live life without rules...
Try thinking from ur frnzz perspective..it might make sense!!

Sridhar Ramachandran said...

I think, falling in love is not wrong.. Realizing ur soul mate is not who you married is also not wrong.. Finding ur soul mate and realizing that is also not wrong.. But when u know it and then not being true to yourself and to your spouse is not right and that is never justifiable.. One can always end it before they get involved... The issue here is we feel secured in the existing relationship and unintentionally or so to speak we keep lingering on with that as if it is a back up.. That's what is wrong!!

TTS said...

One needs to respect others and there is no excuse for hurting others.

divyachekshu said...

searching for ur relationship status...here I got it....;)

Savvy said...

It's a very personal choice and everyone has their own boundaries . Crossing for one is staying in for another . Old school new school comparison is like apple to oranges. It's a matter of choice and everyone is free to choose .